Nothing changes. Nothing matters. "You can't teach an old dog new tricks" Well, you know the saying. These thoughts are the enemy of enjoying life. More important, they are not true. The most vital belief you need in order to live your life fully is that actions matter. Actions are called for. Actions are rewarded. Take action now. There's no reason you shouldn't, and many reasons you should.
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
There is really only one way things ever improve. Progress comes from learning. The learning may come from a teacher, from a book, or from experience and personal curiosity. But no matter what its origin, learning is the essence not only of a society's progress, but of personal progress. The decision and commitment to continue learning are the decision and commitment to continue truly living and to live not just as you always have but as you truly can.
Monday, September 26, 2011
Which is more important, good or bad? Regardless of which you consider to be the right answer, bad is often a bigger part of our thoughts. The traffic jam that bogs down our day stays in our thoughts longer than the open road that sped us on our way. The rude clerk is memorable long after the nice clerk is forgotten. Remind yourself to see the good, to think about the good, to remember the good. the good is out there just as much as the bad, but we are often prone to miss it.
Friday, September 23, 2011
Volunteering for a cause you care about is not only a great benefit to others but also a great benefit to yourself. Volunteering demonstrates or own humanity to us, and it offers us a wonderful opportunity for cultivating feelings of connection to our community. Give of yourself to others because it is the greatest gift you can give to yourself.
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
Stress is an accumulation of events and circumstances that represent more than we can handle. Stress eats away at our body's ability to function both mentally and physically. The best response to stress is not to push yourself and wait for it to go away, but rather to try to reduce stress, both by avoiding the circumstances that are causing it and by creating healthier outlets for the pressures in your life.
Monday, September 19, 2011
There are many things we wish to do from changing a tire to changing our lives that we avoid because we are afraid of failure. We fear the direct evidence of our weakness, so we don't even bother to try. Ironically, our lack of effort is our true weakness. You are stronger and more capable than you can possibly know. When events occur and strength is demanded of you, you will be strong. Realize that you need not wait for events to call. You can demand strength of yourself right now.
Friday, September 16, 2011
We spend our whole lives making plans. We set goals for ourselves in every part of our lives, and once in a while we look back and see what we've accomplished. Though it is reasonable to have a time frame for our lives and our goals, the truth is that the dreams we had when we were younger don't have an expiration date. Live your life toward your dreams. No one will ask you what day it is when you get there.
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
Monday, September 12, 2011
In some sense, everything that has ever happened to you reflects the collective result of an almost infinite series of choices. From the trivial to the crucial, your choices brought you to this moment. In recognizing that your choices matter and that they guide you, you are taking on a burden, but your are also giving yourself the opportunity to accept life's outcomes and to decide what kind of future you want.
Friday, September 9, 2011
It is all up to you. No outcome can force you to feel successful or to feel that you failed. No other person can convince you that what you have is good or bad. It is up to you to define what life means and where you stand. Define you life for yourself.
Wednesday, September 7, 2011
You will face difficult times. Everyone does. But how things turn out for you has less to do with the events themselves than with your response to them. Answer the challenges that are presented to you, persevere through the traumas that may occur, and you will be made stronger for your life ahead.
Monday, September 5, 2011
Friday, September 2, 2011
There is only one true waste of time: boredom. Boredom is the feeling that there is nothing worth doing. Your time becomes a hurdle to be overcome instead of a resource to be treasured..Doing absolutely anything is more productive than boredom.
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
We can't change the past; we can't improve it. Dwelling on past disappointments can change the future, but only to make it worse. Relieve yourself of the burden of past regrets. Your goal is to set the best course for the future, not to suffer over the imperfections of the past.
Monday, August 29, 2011
Your dreams are more than a fleeting source of nighttime entertainment. Much like the dashboard of your car, which tells you what's going on under the hood, your dreams tell you what's going on inside your system. Pay attention to what's happening in your dreams, remember them, and write them down, because they are an important clue to what you are really feeling.
Friday, August 26, 2011
Wednesday, August 24, 2011
Monday, August 22, 2011
When we are a caregiver for a loved one, nearly all of our efforts are poured into that person's life and needs. It is truly a selfless act. But we must remember that to care for ourselves is not a selfish act. We have to make sure there is enough support in our lives to sustain the efforts we are making. Respecting your needs is the best way to continue offering care to someone else.
Friday, August 19, 2011
Laughter is more than a smile and a fond memory. Laughter is fuel for hope. When we laugh, problems shrink and creativity flows. When we laugh, we see possibilities where we once saw only difficulties. Seek people and situations that make you laugh, and the parts of life that aren't funny will seem easier.
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
We think of forgiveness as something we give to another person. But the burden of being angry and disappointed weighs us down, eating away at our relationships and bringing pain to our days. Forgiveness is not a sign of weakness any more than anger is a sign of strength. Try to forgive if not for someone else, then for yourself.
Monday, August 15, 2011
Friday, August 12, 2011
Some people keep their fears bottled up and just soldier on. Others are so enmeshed in their worries that they can think and speak of little else. Neither of these extremes is healthy. Voice your concerns to those you are closest to, because you will feel better opening up, you will feel closer to them and often your problems will seem smaller when you get another person's perspective. But do not live within your problems as if it is they, not you, who exist.
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
In every life there should be regular moments of awe. For most of us, our homes and communities may meet our usual needs, but they seldom inspire us. Take time on a regular basis to put yourself in a completely natural setting. Leave the city or the suburbs, and see the forest and the trees.
Monday, August 8, 2011
Friday, August 5, 2011
Wednesday, August 3, 2011
A large part of our lives is spent imagining the worst that can happen and its consequences. Step back from your fears and worries, and realize that one of the biggest hurdles to overcome is not what you are afraid of but the very fact that you are afraid.
Monday, August 1, 2011
We have the capacity to have deep, moving, insightful thoughts about our lives and the world around us. But our daily habits, routines, and responsibilities often soak up our available time and attention. Give yourself the opportunity to think, to question, and ponder, and you will enjoy not only the fruits of an occasional good idea but the joy of thought itself.
Friday, July 29, 2011
Fun is for young people. They have the time, they have the opportunity, they have the ability. Those may be common assumptions, but none are true. Though the source of fun and happiness may change over the course of our lives, our ability to have fun and our interest in doing so are in no way reduced as we age.
Wednesday, July 27, 2011
If you are convinced that things are bad, you will notice many unpleasant things and unpleasant people. It you are convinced that things are good, you will notice many pleasant things and pleasant people. Understand that every one of us selectively perceives the world around us. We see far too many things every time we step outside the door to focus on all of them. You can get all the supporting evidence you want, regardless of whether you start today determined to think the worst of the world or determined to the the best.
Monday, July 25, 2011
We have strategies for most things in our lives, from work, to games, to how to get home from town two minutes faster. But we leave some of the most important parts of our lives, like our happiness, to chance. Happiness is not like height: you don't just get a certain amount and then have to live with it. Happiness can be improved if you know what you are doing and what you are not doing, and you care to change.
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Saturday, January 29, 2011
Friday, January 28, 2011
Eat Dark Chocolate!
One to two weekly servings of dark chocolate led to a 32 percent reduction in heart failure risk for women in a study published in Circulation: Heart Failure, an American Heart Association journal. One serving of dark chocolate consists of about 1 ounce.
Thursday, January 27, 2011
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
Many today try to lay hold of Philippians 4:19: "My God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus." Do we see, though, that God supplies the givers, not the askers? Only the givers have the right to use this verse; those who do not give are not entitled to the privilege.